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Saturday, January 25, 2014

Valentines Day (and why) ITS A TRAP


    I’m not the least bit surprised that this close to Valentine’s Day here I am writing a hate blog on the overrated holiday. Okay, so I wouldn’t use the term hate. I don’t hate it, but I wouldn't say I'm Cupid's #1 Fan either. I’ve gone on many romantic dates as well as spending other years going out with my girlfriends to keep my mind off of the constant loneliness and rejection that is my life. That’s a little dark actually, and as I sit here and try really hard to dwell on being single I can’t help but to think about how past years actually sucked when I went on a date during this godforsaken holiday.

            Some of you may have heard the expression, “Things probably seemed better at the time than they actually were”. For example, you are in a relationship and you decide that hey…I’m young and hot and want to check out my options… So you break up with Mr.RightNow. Only two weeks later when he won’t take you back you are suddenly depressed, and have convinced yourself that when you were with him it was the happiest you ever were and you made a horrible mistake. Honey, there was no mistake. Take the time to look back at those “good times” and really dissect them. It is only then when you start to realize those times weren’t as good as you might remember them as.
            Don’t worry I haven’t gotten off track here. So as I was saying earlier I have gone on my fair share of cute dates on Valentines Day and it was pretty kickass if I remember correctly. Ahhh yes, if only I could have those days back…
            I’m totally screwing with you guys. Looking back at those “awesome dates” I am coming to terms with the fact that even with a date Valentine’s Day freaking blows, and this is why:

Ø  Anxiety of getting a Valentine:
 I know girls (more than one actually) who have literally told me that they plan on staying with their boyfriend just so they won’t be alone on Valentine’s Day. God I wish that was a joke! What have us female’s come to these days? Yes, great idea Cindy. You should definitely stay with Tommy who just cheated on you with a Bottle-Service-Girl in Vegas just so you can go to some swanky restaurant on Valentine’s Day and fight the whole time! He’s such a winner.
Then there are the hoochies in college who just can’t decide which one of their hook-ups they are going to go out with. Reality check: there is a extremely high chance that none of these guys care enough to actually ask you, and the one who does is most likely the one you like the least. But I mean, beggars can’t be choosers, right?


Ø  Where ever you want to go, babe:
So now that you have your date all lined up it is time to decide where you want to go. A lot of people our age will go the cheap route and hit up a Chili’s or Olive Garden. There is nothing wrong with that choice, just expect to be fully judged by everyone that works there.  So if instead you love birds plan on going anywhere that matters I hope Prince Charming set up a reservation, otherwise that waitlist is no joke. So assuming PC followed through with the most basic step of setting up a great date you can just throw on something pink, get dolled up and you two can walk right in.
You may think that this is going to be a romantic dinner, the two of you looking in each other’s eyes exchanging your inner most thoughts about whatever. Nope, you are wrong. It’s most likely a dinner similar to every other one you two have shared (perhaps worse). One of my fave dinner memories of Valentine’s Day was two years ago when my boyfriend of the time had a mental breakdown because he found out he was getting kicked out of school for bad grades. As I sat there staring at my plate I remember thinking how much it sucked that I was not only dating an idiot, but a cry baby. Happy Valentine’s Day to me! Now I’m not saying all of you are dating or talking to cry baby idiots, however don’t expect a huge romantic spiel, you will likely be disappointed.


Ø  They expect a trophy for taking you out:
…Or all of that other stuff. Now I’m sure most of us are adults and expect to take it to the next step after dinner anyways, but Jesus it would have happened regardless of the meal. You let your man take you to an Italian restaurant that is barely more authentic than Bertuccis and next thing you know he thinks he deserves the Blowjob of the Year. 

Shouldn’t our men want to take us out to eat every day they can? Of course they don’t! Do you think we want to give you the Blowjob of the Year? Of course we don’t! Can we just settle our differences and accept that neither of us owes each other anything for this pointless holiday. You took me out to a mediocre dinner, you didn’t end world hunger dude. Alright, moving on.

Ø  The sex is not like what you have planned out in your head:
I apologize, this is a bit graphic but let us be serious, most of you already know where I’m going with this. It’s like when a boyfriend’s birthday or something dumb like that comes up and you go out and get an outfit or cute undies expecting the best sex ever.

 Then the time comes and it’s just basic. The thing is you can’t plan out chemistry it just sort of happens. You get lost in the moment and its awesome. The point is you probably assumed you and your date are going to go back and get super freaky and it’s going to be incredible when in reality your either A) Fighting about something stupid from dinner. B) So stuffed from dinner you are actually dreading getting in the sheets. C) Your roommate is already back with her date and your life is over. D) All of the above

Hey, don’t let me stop you love sick puppies who already have a date though! There is nothing wrong with sharing a day with someone, weather it’s a hot date or your best friend. Just keep in mind that it takes a lot of work to have a nice night out, not just wishful thinking. And those of you, who are dateless, don’t let it bring you down! It is not even close to as romantic as you have planned out in your silly little mind. Keep Calm and Drink Wine. 


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