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Sunday, March 16, 2014

Why You Should be Happy for Others


Bad energy will have the boomerang effect

Let me go ahead and start this off by saying you would be shocked at how exhausting it can be to throw any type of negative energy towards others. Not only are you afflicting this nasty energy on others, but furthermore yourself, and trust me, people can sense that. Like fervent sharks to blood in the ocean your enemies and others seemingly closer to you as well will feed off of this. I was thinking to myself that I don’t remember the last time putting someone else down worked in my favor. Not to sound like a total cliché but if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all because this day and age you wont get away with it. 

No one “likes a negative Nancy?” More like “no one will invite a negative Nancy to any of the parties and she will have to order Chinese for the 3rd time this week because she’s lonely”. Wait, what?

None of your journeys are the same

Don’t catch yourself turning up your nose at the mention of a close friends success. At many different points of my life I thought I had this one figured out, and then I realized I didn’t. There is a solid message behind this idea: you need to find out what is so wrong with your life that is stopping you from celebrating the up comings of someone else’s. It is hard to feel elated for anyone when you yourself might feel trapped, maybe in a rut even. When you are in a ‘rut’ every ones life seems to be going better than yours, weather this is in terms of money, love, image… you will find something, anything and compare your situation with theirs. YOU CANNOT- I repeat- CANNOT DO THAT! You might interpret others as having a smooth carefree journey, but their pit stops and plights might be recently behind them or unexpectedly around the corner. That is why we must celebrate the fortune of others instead of being down on ourselves, because much like a new song stuck in your head their uplifting moment won’t last forever. What I am trying to say is you can’t just be there for someone when things are going bad, but also good (great even).  By comparing your life with other people will leave you thinking of your own life as mediocre when that isn’t the case, you have your own journey and comparing will only turn you into a Negative Nancy (refer back to being alone forever with Chinese food).

Jealousy is a bitch

…And that bitch is you. So take your spiteful ass somewhere else. Or how about this: stop sitting on your ass and go do something about it. Now listen, there are certain circumstances where you might be jealous of someone that is unreasonable. For example, those sexy glowing Victoria Secret model bitches are a given (like free pass status). But that seemingly perfect blonde in all of your classes who seems nice, smart, and is clearly a knock out is not fair game. Get your ass to the gym, get your head in a book and reevaluate your personality because you are spending way too much thought on someone else to be even remotely satisfied with who you really are. Negative Nancy, meet Jealous Jamie. Maybe the two of you can drink some wine and spend your evening together wondering why you haven’t gone on a date in two years.



            I’m actually a little sorry if I offended any of you Jealous Jamie’s out there, because as a human I understand that jealousy is a very natural feeling/reaction and most of you would make it go away if the choice was up to you. So on a lighter note when you are hating on someone else, remember there are others that might be admiring you from afar. You may be jealous of that radiant blonde, but that chick in the back row of your class might think you are the funny pretty smart one. Don’t ruin it for yourself by coming off as a jealous jerk. It is such a bad look, spare yourself.

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