You Get What You Attract

Post Valentine’s Day blues anybody? I feel as if the days that slowly fall into place after the dreaded holiday itself might be worse than February14^th is. At least on the holiday you can keep yourself busy, and even have a sense of independence …but after that strange adrenaline rush you may feel like you are back to square one. I guess in this case “square one” is just plain old you going back to your plain old life doing the same plain old shit.

            Listen, Valentine’s Day is flat out not what its cracked up to be, but that particular day of the year isn’t the thing you are missing out on. There is no stronger drug than love (don’t worry I’m not getting sappy). The day after V Day should be national “Figure out what the hell is wrong with you and get your ass on the playing field Day”.  There are plenty of fish in the sea, and maybe you find yourself hoping some of those fishies with notice you once in a while.

 But here you are, being some trashy fish that likes to smoke seaweed all day and be a lazy ass in the chorale reefs and your standards nothing less than a hot ass tropical fish who spends their days being productive doing fish-like things.

            So I may or may not have gone overboard with that analogy, but hopefully you clever fish know what I mean: YOU GET WHAT YOU ATTRACT. Seriously, maybe you’re alone because you are over here with no ambitions, a bad attitude and can barely take care of yourself and all you are willing to settle for is some Victoria Secret model or Channing Tatum look-alike. Get with the freakin’ program people. Wake up boys; don’t be thrashing on a chick because she doesn’t look good in yoga pants when you look like a prepubescent child in your undershirt. Who are you to talk?

            Now don’t misconstrue this article, because opposites can attract, that’s not what this is about. And of course, there are exceptions to every situation, but keep in mind, there is a better chance of you building a time machine and actually landing a Valentine’s Day date than you being that exception. Get over it.

            Harsh words from a harsh girl I guess? No, I just speak from experience. I remember when I was a 17 year old terror I could never figure out why I wasn’t getting the guys I actually wanted. There I was skipping school, going to after hour’s clubs and overall just not giving a crap about my future. Yet somehow I wanted like, the hottest football player God could offer or something. How could someone like that be attracted to something like me? All I was getting was attention from club rats and bad boys, and eventually I thought that was just the way it was supposed to be.

            Thank the LORD (or college) that I managed to grow up and get at least some of my priorities in check. I started to notice that as I evolved as a person and set goals for myself, and kept myself busy and a smile on my face all these guys started flocking in. I mean lets not get it twisted, I indeed spent the holidays alone but that’s not the big picture. If you want to be with someone else, you might want to work on yourself a little bit. Inside and out. Work out sometime, do homework early, EDUCATE YOURSELF for Christ sake. It doesn’t have to be school but you can’t be bumming around all day with no purpose.

            Great advice I was once given was to ask myself, “Would you date yourself?” Because it’s like, when you date someone you are kind of in their little world when it’s the two of you. Do you want to be stuck with someone that’s miserable, whiny and potentially going nowhere? No you want someone that’s fun, has good conversation, and is constantly reaching for a goal of some sort. I’m not saying you need to try to make yourself a cheerleader to be with the football player (although that’s a suspiciously accurate cliché) but do not expect that your good looks can get you everywhere when it comes to love or that mumbo jumbo. If you are looking for someone that carries them selves in a certain way and you just don’t have it together, no one wants to be with that. You get what you attract.